The “Perfect Excuse” Exists And Here Are 6 Steps To Getting To It
No matter who you are, what you do, what political position you have - the truth is that every once in a while you make mistakes, just like every human being, and you need to apologize for them. It turns out that admitting mistakes is not a very easy thing to do, and at these times many people end up sticking their feet in their hands and making gaffes that only make matters worse.
The good news is that it is possible to learn to apologize the right way - even better: all based on scientific research that has been able to list the six essential components for someone to express their feelings properly. The survey was conducted by scientists at Ohio State University and featured the analysis of responses from 755 people. Find out below:
1 - Say you're sorry
Let's go back to your childhood at your aunt's birthday party. You and your cousin draw blood from each other's faces, and your mother and aunt put you standing face to face. It is blood in the eye. Of both. Still, moms play their dubious pedagogy roles and force both you and your cousin to apologize. But you both want everything but that, and I'm sorry comes out almost inaudibly. Is it good? Do not.
If you don't feel for what you did wrong, the excuse is already crooked, and honestly, it was better not to have apologized. Here the way is to think about whether you are really sorry and, if so, to open your heart and make it clear to the person with whom you are apologizing.
Without Joey's quotes, preferably
2 - Explain what went wrong
It's no use doing what you did when you were fighting in childhood and saying "I'm sorry." Explain to the other person exactly what your mistake was. That way you will show maturity and also analyze the consequence of your actions, which is crucial when asking someone to forgive what you have done wrong.
There's nothing wrong with that!
3 - Be aware of the responsibility of asking for forgiveness.
It is not enough to say that you are sorry for the mistake; You have to understand that when someone forgives you, you have a responsibility to honor that forgiveness and rethink your actions so as not to do the same thing again. Who has never fallen for the "forgiveness, last time, I swear" story or know someone who has fallen? Notion of responsibility is just that: ensuring that, in fact, was the last time it happened.
It's not for anyone at all
4 - Show regret
Saying you're sorry, acknowledging your mistakes, promising you'll never do it again is worth nothing if you don't show that you're sorry for what you did. Many people think showing regret is a sign of weakness, when in fact it is just the opposite. If we repent, it means that we are mature enough to recognize our mistakes and try to solve them. Even worse is insisting on failure as a matter of pride.
Who has never regretted?
5 - See what you can do to solve the situation
Maybe the mistake you made isn't that serious, maybe it's too serious that you just don't have something you can do to solve the problem, but the least you have to do is try to find out if you can mitigate the damage.
6 - Finally, Ask Forgiveness
Yeah, that's right: so far, you weren't asking for forgiveness yet. He was just apologizing, admitting his mistakes and trying to see if he could solve them. After all this, humbly ask if the person can forgive you. If so, thank you. If not, put yourself in her shoes and don't insist. There are things that only time solves.
Do you have any tips for those who made a mistake and want to apologize? Comment on the Mega Curious Forum