Learn to find out if a person is lying to you
If you are minimally clever, you surely know how to recognize the guy who lives telling lies or simply "increases" some stories. It's just that some people are so innocent that they believe their absurd narratives won't sound suspicious. Apart from these people whose lies are always on display, there are the smart ones who can lie without giving too many signs.
If you have always wondered whether or not your friend was telling a lie, now you will know how to read the body signals that every Pinocchio ends up even without realizing it. Check out:
1 - About the lie
First of all, you need to understand one thing: The mind-setter needs to create a story and be able to tell it whenever it is needed. Therefore, lying well is not for anyone and requires a lot of mental work for the liar. And if you learn to recognize some signs that the person is creating a story, point to you.
2 - Cognitive burden
Lying requires great cognitive ability. The person must know what the real event is, hide it and create a new one by adding lying items. The lie must make sense and not contradict anything the deceived person already knows. The liar must tell the lie convincingly and have a good memory to the point of remembering every detail.
This crafting of a compelling story will make the liar take some time, right? By then his concentration will be reduced, which in itself is a sign of a lie. Now if you give him a second task, such as drying dishes, for example, or maybe pouring glasses with juice, he'll get in the way. Busted!
3 - Signs
When we are nervous we tend to blink more, but when we are exerting great cognitive activity we blink less. There are even some studies that have proven this. So here's another sign that might catch a liar in the act: when the person blinks little.
Nervousness makes us uncomfortable and agitated, but cognitive effort has the opposite effect. Unlike what you can imagine, people don't get too bothered or agitated when they lie. It is also known that men do not usually gesture while telling an untruth. Both men and women take longer breaks when they are lying. If you want to discover a liar, do not look for signs of stress, but that he is making a mental effort.
4 - Words you understand
According to psychologist Richard Wiseman, liars tend not to move their arms and legs much and may repeat the same sentences. When asked, they give short, non-detailed answers. Moreover, Wiseman claims that liars distance themselves from their lies by talking about them more impersonally; that's why they rarely say words like "me" and "mine". Also, they choose words like "he" and "she" instead of using people's names.
5 - What the experts do
People used to discovering lies do not cling to these common signs. Instead, they simply seek to increase the liar's cognitive load and deliberately make the person think more until they discover obvious points that indicate lies.
Police detectives often ask the person to tell the same story backwards, demanding as much detail as possible. This technique increases a person's cognitive load and takes them to the extreme. Even a professional liar gets confused and ends up telling the lie in a different way.
Detectives ask questions that provide answers beyond 'yes' or 'no'. They start their questions with "can you tell me more details about ..." or "can you tell me exactly what happened". It is important not to interrupt the interview, even when there is silence.
6 - Get smart
As we have explained here, the best liars are those who can increase their cognitive load and create stories. That is, good liars are smart and creative people. When trying to detect a lie told by a good liar, keep that in mind. If you are not well prepared, you may continue to be mistaken.
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