11 tricks that will make you feel good meeting a different person

Not everyone can have a first conversation with a different person without shivering, sweating cold, stammering and having the urge to bang their heads against the wall. For a number of reasons, some people are even more reserved, and when they need to break the ice and do a job interview or maybe meet a Tinder person in person, it gets ugly.

Being able to communicate effectively with those in your life is critical, and if you are looking to be financially successful, there are those who say that 85% of someone's money success does not necessarily come from knowledge and skills, but from right connection with other people.

The Muse has recently published a list of little approach tricks that promise not only to learn to have better first conversations, but to quickly make a good impression - that's what will determine if the other person will like, trust and respect you. Check out the step by step for success in interpersonal relationships:

Restrain your instincts and try not to be nervous

Many people forget that, despite being rational humans, we are instinctive animals. It is natural, therefore, that you have unusual reactions to a new person: it is good to know how to recognize the negatives and try to control them in some way, to prevent the caller from noticing your nervousness.

2 - Respect the limits

What is considered “appropriate” varies from person to person, from culture to culture. In this sense, it is important to be aware of your partner's body language and understand the environment in which you are. For example, in a job interview, don't greet the person you're talking to with a kiss on the cheek; a handshake is better and makes a good first impression, especially if it is firm.

3 - Meet expectations

If this is your first time seeing someone in person, you may have said something about yourself before - in Tinder's resume or messages, for example. In that case, make sure you were sincere. No use doing a resume full of lying information or using another guy's photo on Tinder - if you know the person already knows that you lied or didn't live up to expectations, it's impossible to make a good first impression .

4 - More body language please

The way your body behaves when you meet a new person is worth more than what you tell them. The tip here is to behave in a friendly manner, smile, maintain a sympathetic facial expression and, of course, don't forget to make eye contact - without looking psychopathic, preferably.

5 - Control your attitudes and energy

You may have heard that a person has good or bad energy. This idea of ​​energy has to do with the first impressions you make when you come to a new environment. Anyone who sees you coming for the first time will unconsciously capture something positive or negative about you. It may sound silly advice, but thinking about positive things on the way to your interview or meeting is a great way to solve this problem.

6 - And the mood, is well?

People tend to like enthusiastic, confident and warm people more. In that sense, try to leave the bad mood and surly face at home. A dove pooped on your head, your cat ate trash and vomited around the house, and you realized you lost money - no matter what destroyed your good mood; just forget what went wrong and think that you will only resolve these issues later. Except for dove poop - this should always be dealt with immediately.

7 - It has to make sense

It's no use coming up with a positive decorated speech if you cross your arms in front of your caller or stare sideways. Having a consistent verbal and body speech is what makes you credible.

8 - The good old sensory language

If you are not a person who knows how to tell good stories, here is a tip: when you describe a situation using visuals, sounds, speed, textures and feelings, it is quite possible that your story will be more interesting to hear. .

9 - Be curious, be open minded and show interest

Letting the other person talk and keep talking makes your chances of being attracted to you substantially increased. In this sense, showing interest means asking questions, having an open mind, not judging what to hear, and letting the conversation flow in a natural and interesting way.

10 - Learn to talk about yourself

It's always good to keep in mind what answer to give when someone asks what you do, what your interests are, and what defines your personality. It may not seem like it, but the answer you give to this question is really important if you want to make a good impression right away. Having an answer on the tip of your tongue will demonstrate that you are eloquent and trustworthy.

11 - Make the most of every new meeting / meeting

You never know when a job interview or meeting with new people will change your life in some way, but there is always a chance that it will happen. In this sense, treat each new meeting, new interview, or new meeting as an important event that deserves your full attention - the good news is that reading this text so far was probably putting the 11th Council into practice without even realizing it.

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Do you have any advice for these situations? Want to share some personal experience with us? The comment space is there for that. Enjoy!

* Posted on 10/15/2015

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