7 Attitudes That Can Make People Turn Away From You

Ever wonder what people think about you? Are your interpersonal relationships good? About.com has listed some factors that may explain why a person is left behind, stops receiving invitations to go out with friends, or simply ignored by co-workers. Is this not happening to you? Here's what behaviors to avoid for those who want to have friends around:

1 - Stop talking bad about everyone

Do you know that person who lives pointing out the faults of others? Yeah. The truth is, no one likes to be with her for a long time - even because the listener is always left with that doubt: "Does this guy talk bad about me too?". There is no denying it: people end up turning away from these native gossips. If you are like that, how about handling comments?

2 - Learn to behave better

As questionable as some rules of etiquette may be, remember that having good manners does not kill anyone. You can be a freer person when you are with your friends, of course, but when it comes to socializing with coworkers, it costs nothing, for example, to eat with your mouth shut.

3 - Don't be the inconvenient joker

Of course, laughing is great, and everyone loves a joke now and then. The point is that some people seem to have no idea of ​​the limit. If you don't know how to distinguish good jokes from rudeness, just avoid comments that sound funny, but deep down they are prejudices, machismo, sexism, racism and the like. When in doubt, think about whether what you really want to say is funny or just plain boring and crude common sense.

4 - Learn to work in a team.

This is quite logical: would you like to be around a person who values ​​other people or who closes in a bubble? The truth is that you need to work well in a team, be communicative, acknowledge the work of others, learn to praise and make constructive criticism.

5 - Start splitting the account

It is not because your friend has offered to pay the bill since you will never share the expenses again. “Slack” people, who say the famous “pay me back later, ” obviously stop being invited on a few occasions. If the money is short, simply don't go out or choose a cheaper option.

6 - Stop Mouthing

If you happen to be one of those people who loves a good fight just for the pleasure of showing you are right and if when you know you are not right you keep arguing like you are, just to not lose the argument, the bad news is: you are in the category of the most boring people in the world and it's obvious that your friends will stop making invitations.

If one person wants to hear the other talk nonstop for hours, he goes to a lecture. Bar tables aren't the best place to talk about your beliefs - not least because as genius as you might think, some people just don't give a damn what you think about certain subjects. So don't insist on being boring for your own sake.

7 - Start listening

This topic has a lot to do with the previous one, because whoever speaks by the elbows is not a good listener - notice. The problem with people who talk too much is that they cross the line of the poor guy who decides to interrupt the monologue.

No one likes to be cut off by the verbiage and egocentric person at the table. If you talk nonstop, it's boring; Now if you talk nonstop and don't let anyone else talk, you're pretty much unbearable.

If there isn't a psychologist in front of you who is just there to hear your lines, please understand that balancing dialogues is fundamental - and relatively simple: conversations are made of speech and silence. If neither is prevailing over the other, that's fine.

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So, what did you think of these tips? Have you ever stopped talking to a person because of any of the above reasons? Tell us in the comments!

* Posted on 10/25/2014