Psychology explains: Why don't your love relationships last?

Relationships are always complicated, especially when we talk about those involving romantic love. It is not at all difficult to find people who seem to fall into the same love pattern: they meet someone, fall in love, spend time with the person, and suddenly the person simply loses interest and jumps off. Why does this happen?

Kelly Campbell wrote about this subject in Psychology Today, because most of the time Psychology can even explain our behaviors, especially those that repeat themselves and create patterns in which we find ourselves stuck. For Campbell, the main reasons why people lose interest in someone are as follows:

Lack of self-confidence

Like it or not, the fact is that self-confidence counts a lot, and lack of it is one of the big reasons why one person loses interest in the other. Campbell explains that it is because of their confidence that some people who are considered unattractive can get attention and maintain stable love relationships.

We cannot recognize many insecurities at the beginning of relationships, so when they begin to appear one after the other, interest may eventually trickle down the drain.

The only way to change the situation is to work on improving your self-esteem and becoming more comfortable in your own skin. Also consider whether your insecurities are about things that can be changed; if so, chase after the change. Study more, do physical activities, eat better, seek positive changes that will make you feel good.

When the person is desperate after a relationship

Do you know that desperate person after a romantic relationship? They often end up hoping to find happiness in someone else when, in fact, we should be happy alone and find someone, if we want, to keep us company, not fill holes.

Ideally, one should embrace the idea of ​​being single for the rest of one's life, as there is no problem with that. Once she feels comfortable that way, if the situation changes she will not want to arrange the marriage after two months of dating.

Sometimes was not the right time

Always keep in mind that it is not possible to know what is going on in someone else's life, and the truth is that you can be the best of parties, but if the person has some other problem to solve, he has to prioritize things. It is not always to be. Things don't always happen at the right time. Let's accept it.

We know it's hard to accept things that have no explanation, but they exist in droves, so the better you try to understand that, the sooner you'll recover when you get knocked over. Have faith in future relationships and don't think everything will happen again. Until someone else comes along, get busy doing cool things that will benefit your life.

Too much too fast

It may also happen that both people are fine with life, ready to start a relationship, but after a while they lose that initial excitement and things get cold.

This is typical of relationships that start too fast, when people want to be together all the time, exchange numerous messages throughout the day, talk to each other all the time. The problem is that often this excess of time together, this whole rush can condemn the relationship to an early end.

It is therefore essential to keep in mind the healthy progression of your relationship, trying to maintain balance and avoiding headlong. When you are starting a new relationship, take it easy, meet the other person, do not prioritize the new relationship, do not abandon friends and other aspects of your private life. Check, too, the things you have in common and don't think that just because the thing has chemistry it will be lasting.

In the end, common sense is the most meaningful rule that can help us take it easy and change the patterns.

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