Why is it so hard to believe in your own qualities?

If a friend of yours pulls you into a conversation and decides to let off steam by saying that you feel insecure about some aspect of life, then you tell him about what is most positive about his education, professionalism, behavior, punctuality, relationship with other people and so on. Talking about the qualities of others is easy, the problem is when someone has to value their own strengths.

In this sense, of course, there are people who do well, who recognize the best, and who deal with it very well, but the truth is that for most people it is still difficult to recognize their own virtues. Fortunately, with some information and a little training, that can change.

Why don't people recognize their strengths?

Sometimes this happens because you don't see yourself the same way that the people around you see you. If something is bothering you at work, for example, you may see yourself as the person who is struggling while your colleagues look at you and find someone fun, punctual, cordial, and so on. If you only see your weaknesses and if other people keep saying that you are full of qualities, think that the truth is at least between the two.

Keep in mind also that for you, it is possible that a great quality of yours is perceived in your head as something simple, trivial. Others, on the other hand, may see what you think is a common attribute as a good thing. Have you ever thought about it? It's not because you do well in math that this is no longer a quality.

Now pay attention: sometimes it is possible that your strengths are things that you find difficult and then you find that if something is always difficult and if you are always having trouble doing a task, you are not good at it. In fact, if you think about it, you will understand that doing something difficult on a daily basis is indeed worthy and something that makes you good at it.

After all, what is having a strength?

The truth is that we think little about it. For you, what is really a quality or a strength? Be helpful? Have discipline? Treat everyone respectfully? Meet deadlines?

How about thinking about your strengths a little further out of the box? Think about the actions you take to avoid procrastinating an activity, for example. How do you deal with moments of laziness and lethargy? Recognizing your strategies in the face of the things that get in your life is a great way to discover your strengths and then value each one of them. Look for qualities that go beyond those of your personality, but which arise when you are procrastinating or working under pressure.

Finally, one way to begin to recognize your virtues and strengths is to stop comparing yourself with other people, even because no comparison is fair. If someone says you're a great speaker, for example, don't fall into the trap of thinking of all the other people who are better speakers. If you say your text is well written, accept the compliment and don't be tempted to say that there are many better texts out there.

Reviewing how you respond to challenges as well as compliments is certainly a smart attitude that will gradually make you learn to have more self-confidence and to act smarter, either professionally, educationally or professionally. personal. You can be sure!

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