6 Signs That Keeping Friends With Your Ex Isn't Working

1. You keep fighting

Many relationships end after countless quarrels, but the couple decide to adopt the good neighbor policy after the breakup and cannot maintain that appearance for long. If you keep fighting with your ex now that he's a friend, it may not be healthy for either of you to have such a close relationship, right? Cutting the emotional bond is hard, but insisting on eternal fights is even worse.

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2. You Keep Secrets

There are several levels of friendship, but the most important in our lives are those that we can trust almost everything. If you keep secrets from your ex to spare you something, especially new dating or dating, maybe he is not as good a friend.

It is good to point out: although we conjugate in masculine, all these rules are valid for both sexes, ok?

Of course you don't have to go out and tell your ex every step of your life, as some things can (and should) be kept for restricted people only, but it's important to consider whether you are keeping why you want it or why you don't. trust the reaction - if it is the second option, this friendship relationship is not very healthy.

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3. Do you feel like you are cheating

If you can't get to know and care about other people because you think you're cheating on your now friend, you may not be over yet and need to go through this period without him around. After all, after the end there is no more betrayal, agree? If he is your real friend, he must understand when you are with another person (s) and vice versa.

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4. You still have sex

Warning sign! Warning sign! Nothing against colorful friendships, but when they are with an ex there is a good chance one or both of them get hurt. Maintaining sexual relationships because the chemistry was good between you will not help overcome the emotional bond and will not open doors for others to get closer.

Ross and Rachel in bed

5. Are you jealous

If you have a friendship, tell all the details of your life, have lunch together, travel and do everything you did while dating, except kiss and have sex, it's natural to be jealous if he spends time without news. But being jealous of friends is not necessarily good, right? Maybe in the bottom you still have unresolved feelings that need a physical and emotional distance to be cemented.

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6. You want to keep up appearances

The friends are the same, the routine is the same, so why break the bond, isn't it? If this is your thinking, run away! Maintaining relationship with ex just for convenience is asking to fall into emotional pitfalls sooner or later. Ideally, try to rebuild friendship from scratch and not try to keep it as if dating had never happened. And that includes changing habits, routines, friendship circles, hangouts, etc.

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