5 typical excuses from people who are afraid to risk

As strong and courageous as we may seem, there is always something that makes us afraid, and fear, we know, can paralyze us. When we have big, powerful goals, we may end up feeling anxiety and fear, which makes us unconsciously find excuses that sabotage us and keep us from doing what is necessary to achieve those goals.

If you often say any of the following phrases, we recommend that you do a self-analysis and see if it is really because you think it is too difficult or because deep down you are afraid of what might happen. If it is really fear, know that this feeling only makes you procrastinate your goals and accumulate frustrations. See what these phrases are:

1 - You feel that the goal is hard to reach and your mind says, "I can't, so there's no point in trying."

If you find yourself unable, you really have no reason to try, but it is hardly what really happens. Most of the time, we recognize the difficulty and so are afraid. The point is: Once you understand the complications of what you want to do, you need to work out realistic strategies, tangible plans, and know exactly what you need to do to overcome obstacles. This is what makes you more likely to succeed when you decide to really try.

2 - You are afraid to fail and your mind says "I don't want to try"

If we are talking about something you really want, it is obvious that your will is not to fail. Precisely for this reason, you need to understand that your mind is saying that nothing will work out as a response to the fear of failure. Being aware of how you feel is the first step in overcoming this fear, so accept that it hurts less. Once you admit that you are afraid, you will be able to confront it and eventually overcome it.

3 - You know you will need to make an effort and prepare and your mind says, "It's not worth it."

It's that thing: The more meaning your goal has, the more effort you'll need to make to achieve it. It turns out that big goals are the ones that give us the best rewards and, therefore, the ones that give us the feeling that we are capable of changing our own lives, so it is very likely that this effort will be worth it.

4 - You are anxious to set a start date and your mind says, "I'll start when I'm ready"

We love going to the pizza carvery before officially joining a food reeducation program, and this desire to push the date as far forward as possible can come at any time. The problem is that when we set a date and respect it, we make our goal more official and this feeling that “now things are going” may be responsible for giving us that little push that was missing.

5 - You think you will not stand it if you fail even though you have worked hard and your mind says, "I will only try once, and if it fails, I will never try again."

If you look at success stories - from someone who passed the college entrance exam to someone who created a business empire - you will hardly notice that those stories worked out the first time. Failure is not cool, but it is part of our growth and learning. Fear of it makes us fail to give up.

By saying that you spoke because you are “unable”, your mind will absorb that statement as if it were true, and you increase your chances of failure. To increase your chances of success, start wondering what it would be like if you reached your goal - like it or not, the truth is that optimism can do us very well.